“It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worthwhile.”
– Alcoholics Anonymous
Awful? Crazy? Amazing?
My perspective is that most people are unhappy about it, based on their grumbling and complaining of the temperature not warming up (even though it has). Or how it’s unbelievable to get snow in April (even though we’ve experienced snow in May). Or that winter will “never” end (even though it always does). I understand saying and believing those things. But, most of the time, I no longer do that. My name is Brit, and I am a recovering pessimist.
Life took me to a place where questioning everything became required. Where asking myself why I held certain beliefs was gently encouraged then wholly accepted. From that place, I learned I didn’t have to accept the majority opinion or popular belief as my own. From that place, I was able to get naked honest with myself and see that all those beliefs were weighing me down and souring my attitude. They crowded out the good things. I was toppled by the truth that I was voluntarily sacrificing my peace of mind. I was struck sane with the realization that I no longer had to do that.
Life is a limited time offer. There are a set number of moments I will experience. So, I strive to seek out the good, experience excitement, wonder and awe whenever I can. All on its own life will serve up negative experiences and hardship. I don’t need to manufacture any additional. In this way, surely, I will find peace in the storm.
“For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson